INTPs in Relationships

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1. Slide 1: INTPs in Relationship E.J. Walton waltonej@gmail.com
2. Slide 2: The INTP Alone
3. Slide 3: INTP
4. Slide 4: Question What happens when two INTPs go walking?
5. Slide 5: Two INTPs Walking
6. Slide 6: Answer – Part One Nothing very concrete…
7. Slide 7: Answer – Part Two …until one gets frustrated and the shadow emerges
8. Slide 8: Our EFSJ Shadow
9. Slide 9: Two INTPs Walking After One Shadow Emerges
10. Slide 10: The dynamic begins to shift One is attacking and the other is still unaware of what’s going on during this simple walk
11. Slide 11: Now Two Shadows Battle
12. Slide 12: The Cycle Y’s better I said X Only if you’re insane
13. Slide 13: Answer – Part Three What happens next is anybody’s guess.
14. Slide 14: Time and Stress
15. Slide 15: INTP and Shadow ESFJ
16. Slide 16: INTP in Relationships Positives: Blind Spots: • • using analytical and critical skills being too intellectual to solve problems • finding too many flaws, and not • focusing attention on the central accepting imperfect but 'good issue enough' solutions • • providing intellectual insight not taking account of others' feelings • suggesting ideas that achieve long • and short term aims suggesting ideas and then appearing to change his/her mind • viewing information objectively • leave others to worry about implementation once the major problems have been solved • clinging to a principle at the expense of relationships and harmony
17. Slide 17: Under Stress Learned behavior gives way to natural style: • withdraw to think about the central issue that needs attention • suggest various ideas, and use the feedback received to support the intellectual analysis • debate the issue from an intellectual point of view, and leave it very late before making a decision • criticize others efforts and ignore their feelings
18. Slide 18: Extreme Stress The INTP's shadow may appear - a negative form of ESFJ: • expressing intense negative emotions towards others • being very sensitive to criticism • becoming preoccupied with details, without any logical basis • interpreting facts or events in a very subjective way
19. Slide 19: Observations • What gets presented is limited • What gets thought about is huge, but not expressed • What is believed about the self is rarely confirmed by the other • The shadow emerges expressing big negatives • Linked together during stress, shadows do all the outer work, doing more damage (which may explain why talking rarely works)
20. Slide 20: Finding Agreement Shared Beliefs Of 1 & 2 INTP -1’s needs INTP – 2’s needs
21. Slide 21: Holding it Together Past Hopes Present Future
22. Slide 22: Resources • Team Technology, UK • http://www.teamtechnology.co.uk/mb-types/intp.htm • Myers Briggs • Conversations with Dr. Roland Havis