The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Families

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1. Slide 1: Slide presentation by Ken du Pisanie Written by Stephen R. Covey
2. Slide 2: You’re Going to be “Off Track” 90% of the Time. So What?
3. Slide 3: Good families – even great families – are off track 90% of the time. The key is that they have a sense of destination. They know what the “track” looks like. And they keep coming back to it time and time again.
4. Slide 4: The key is in having a destination, a flight plan, and a compass. Invest the next few minutes in this presentation, and you will be given the most valuable tools ever to find your destination for your family.
5. Slide 5: Have the end in mind: A Beautiful Family Culture
6. Slide 6: HABIT 1 BE PROACTIVE
7. Slide 8: We do not have to love. We choose to love.
8. Slide 9: To do carefully and constantly and kindly many little things is not a little thing.
9. Slide 10: The way you treat any relationship in the family will eventually affect every relationship in the family.
10. Slide 11: HABIT 2 BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND
11. Slide 12: Create a clear, compelling vision of what you and your family are all about.
12. Slide 13: A family mission statement is a combined, unified expression from all family members of what your family is all about and the principles you choose to govern your family life.
13. Slide 14: For the most part, families don’t have the kind of mission statement so critical to organizational success. Yet the family is the most important, fundamental organization in the world.
14. Slide 15: Through a family mission statement you can let your children know that you are totally committed to them, and that you have been from the very moment of their birth or adoption.
15. Slide 16: HABIT 3 PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST
16. Slide 17: Making Family a Priority in a Turbulent World
17. Slide 18: “Okay, now, I know what you’re going to hear from people is “We don’t have the time. But if you don’t have the time for one night or at least one hour during the week where everybody can come together as a family, then the family is not the priority.” ~ Oprah Winfrey ~
18. Slide 19: Things which matter the most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least.
19. Slide 20: The place to start is not with the assumption that work is non-negotiable; it’s with the assumption that family is non- negotiable. That one shift of mind-set opens the door to all kinds of creative possibilities.
20. Slide 21: The role of parents is a unique one, a sacred stewardship in life. Is there really anything that would outweigh the importance of fulfilling that stewardship well?
21. Slide 22: HABIT 4 THINK “WIN~WIN”
22. Slide 23: Moving from “Me” to “We”
23. Slide 24: The question is this: “Would you be willing to search for a solution that is better than what either of us is now proposing?”
24. Slide 25: The commitment is this: “Let me listen to you first” or “Help me understand.”
25. Slide 26: The principle is this: What is important to another person must be as important to you as the other person is to you.
26. Slide 27: Parenting is not about being popular and giving in to every child’s whim and desire. It’s about making decisions that truly are win-win – however they may appear to the child at the time.
27. Slide 28: HABIT 5 SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND…THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD
28. Slide 29: Solving family problems through emphatic communication
29. Slide 31: There’s no way to have rich, rewarding family relationships without real understanding
30. Slide 32: Most mistakes with family members are not the result of bad intent. It’s just that we really don’t understand. We don’t see clearly into one another’s hearts.
31. Slide 33: When you understand… You don’t judge.
32. Slide 34: Each person needs to be loved in his or her own special way. They key to making deposits, therefore, is to understand – and to speak – that person’s language of love
33. Slide 35: The technique of emphatic listening is just the tip of the iceberg. The great mass of the iceberg is a deep and sincere desire to truly understand.
34. Slide 36: HABIT 6 SYNERGIZE
35. Slide 37: Building family unity through celebrating differences
36. Slide 38: You must be able to say sincerely, “The fact that we see things differently is a strength – not a weakness – in our relationship.
37. Slide 39: Once you realize that each problem is asking for a response instead of just triggering a reaction, you start to learn. You become a learning family.
38. Slide 40: HABIT 7 SHARPEN THE SAW
39. Slide 41: Renewing the family spirit through traditions
40. Slide 42: Every family must take time to renew itself in the four key areas of life: physical, social, mental, and spiritual.
41. Slide 43: If you organize your family life to spend ten or fifteen minutes a morning reading something that connects you to timeless principles, you will make better choices during the day – in the family, on the job, in every dimension of life.
42. Slide 44: Sharpening the saw is the highest leverage activity in life because it affects everything else so powerfully
43. Slide 45: From Survival…To stability…To Success…To Significance I don’t know what your destiny will be, but one thing I know: The only ones among you who will really be happy are those who have sought and found how to serve. ~ Albert Schweitzer ~
44. Slide 46: ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS & CREDITS The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families by Stephen R. Covey 1998 Simon & Schuster UK Ltd. (London) Slide presentation by Ken du Pisanie